Systems for Mom Survival

We’ve had a rough couple of weeks here at Casa Gina: all five of us were sick about three weeks ago, then I went out of town for 4 days, and when I returned my husband had surgery. While he was recovering, my son got swine flu (and he’s still recovering, now on meds to prevent pneumonia since he has bad asthma). Whew!

How am I still standing? How do I get through the days keeping the family, the house, and myself going? Lots and lots of Diet Dr. Pepper and chocolate. You think I’m kidding. Okay, maybe a few other things–what works are the same systems I use during the non-stressful times of life that I mention all the time:

Meal Planning: Having a meal plan written down means it’s easy for my husband to pick up the groceries instead of me. If I’ve already shopped when things turn topsy-turvy at our house, he or whoever is with the kids can make simple meals instead of relying on fast food or takeout. Between stockpiling and cooking ahead, there’s (almost) always food in my cupboards and freezer.

Support System: Since we don’t have family living nearby, we rely on our friends and social network for help when things like medical emergencies come up. It feels good to know I have a bunch of neighbors and friends to call when we need help, and I’m part of several groups that help by delivering meals when needed. I reciprocate by fully participating in these clubs and helping others as much as I can.

Keep One Room Clean: While the house cleaning schedule was ignored amidst the extra flu laundry and trips back and forth to the doctor, I did my best to Keep One Room Clean. Having one visually un-cluttered space to escape to for a quiet moment, to sit down at the table for a meal or to get something done, helped a lot.

Living on a Budget: Because we regularly live under budget, keep track of our monthly expenses and have an emergency fund, I wasn’t too worried about the dent that the hospital and other medical bills would make. I know our bills are being paid on time, so there was nothing for me to worry about. I was able to focus on helping everyone recover and get back to good health. I’ve chosen a life without many luxuries, but I have a sense of freedom about my finances because of it.

Even if you’re not ready to implement all of these systems, is there ONE area that you’d like to improve? Can you dedicate some time and effort to getting your grocery shopping/dinner prep system in place? It may make a huge difference in your life and for your family. Are you feeling alone and stressed being home with your children? What groups can you identify in your area (neighbors, church, MOMS Club) to become involved with?

I encourage you to create some systems as Mom of your household–not just for your sanity, but as coping strategies that will serve you well in good times and in bad.